bering-strait:

whenthesecondsun:

bering-strait:

Story time: I’m a trans guy. I have an identical twin.

We’re both tall, androgynous, and have naturally deep voices

In high school a rumor was spread that one of us was trans. For years, everyone in school had convinced themselves that my twin was “the trans one”. She rolled with it to keep me safe, and said it felt like a compliment to be mistaken for a trans woman since she looked up to a lot of trans women. That didn’t stop the bullying, but it’s easier to deal with when it’s directed at the wrong person.

I’m engaged to a feminine cis guy who is several inches shorter than me. I have 20-30lbs on him and I can dead lift him. He’s more delicate and soft both physically and socially. He cries during sad movies, owns half a million stuffed animals, and clings to my arm when he’s nervous or it’s cold out (oh yeah, also he’s adorable)

Whenever the topic of being trans comes up, cis people tend to think he’s the one who is trans. Direct all “what do your parents think?” comments onto him. Completely ignore me. Ask him invasive/transphobic questions about his body. Tell him “you pass so well!” through grit teeth. Like with my sister, I get pretty pissed about this, but there’s not much I can do about it.

I have had to argue with cis people to establish the fact I’m trans because they don’t believe me & think I’m joking. they’re like “but he’s - no, she’s trans!” and frantically point fingers at my fiance and sister. Because there’s no way an adult cis woman could be taller than 5′9 and choose to be bare-faced, and an adult cis man could love How To Train Your Dragon 2 with a fiery passion, enough to watch it 3 times in the theatre. 

Terfs take one look at us and try to convince my sister she’ll never have a uterus or that she’s “appropriating women’s spaces”. Transphobes say my boyfriend will “always be a girl” and call him gendered slurs. They talk over them, block them, and grill them about what genitalia they have online. Completely unknowing that they’re talking to two cisgender people who are gay and gnc.

@ young, closeted, scared trans people: any cis person who insists they can somehow “know” your “birth sex” by looking at you because “it’s so obvious!” is full of shit. people come in all shapes and sizes regardless of gender. Not only are they being transphobic, but they’re being homophobic too.

Lmao how many times have you met these so called terfs irl, alongside your sister, in order to know all-out patterns of behavior for how they react to her?

Same for your partner? Did you really run into real life terfs in an occasion where they had the opportunity to discuss at length what they thought about their supposed transness? And then frequently enough to establish a pattern?

Tbh I doubt that very much. You’re extrapolating your own ideas of what terfs are like on places like Tumblr into what they might potentially behave like if they were to run into the people in your life. So maybe stop and take a breath there, mate

Your points are super valid, and yes, you can’t always tell if someone is trans or cis and that’s cool and sometimes the point and we shouldn’t be making assumptions about people’s identities based on unrelated traits.

But don’t make up stories about behaviours from people you’ve probably never knowingly met irl, bc thats not cool

Oh noooo a TERF doesn’t believe my lived experiences are real and thinks I’m lying… this has never happened to me before online or offline… what ever shall I do?